Today as I was cycling I got whistled at. Wolf whistled. And as I cycled along the towpath I passed a man, as I did he said loudly at me: "You've got a lovely bum" . . . then he obviously felt all bolstered by vocalising his swarthy male sexuality because he said again loudly "YOU'VE GOT A LOVELY BUM". If he hadn't chosen to shout it this second time he might have heard a faint 'pah-twang!' as something deep inside me snapped.
I've really had enough of strangers feeling they can comment on how I look. It's rude, isn't it? I don't think that's hard to see. And it makes me sad because comments like that only ever come from a place of deep insecurity. Anyone who makes lewd comments at a stranger is just using that person as a crutch for their limping sexuality. And I've had enough.
I don't what it means or where it's going to go but that small snapping sound is a change, I'm not going to put my head down and cycle on anymore. I have a horrible feeling that I'm going to have to talk to these people. It's going to be exhausting and scary but I've really had enough of living in a place where that kind of thing happens.
Today I read this article in the Guardian and heard about the #harcelementderue hashtag on Twitter and found the hollaback site. Please share these sites, it's such an important cause, it's something you can control on a daily basis that could have much wider effects. Have a look and a read and next time you find it happening do something about it; not as a woman or a man or an inbetweeny - just as a decent person.